Compliments of everychildfirst.com
Mean Moms
Someday when my children are
old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them,
as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you enough . . . to ask where you were
going, with whom, and what time you would be home. I loved you enough to be
silent and let you discover that your new best friend was a creep. I loved you
enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that
should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my eyes.
Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect. I loved you enough to let you assume
the responsibility for your actions even when the results were so harsh they
almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them, because in
the end you won, too. And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will try to tell them.
Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mother in the whole
world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs,
and toast. When others had money to buy soda and French fries in the cafeteria,
we had to eat sandwiches and fruit from the lunches she packed. And you can
guess our mother fixed a dinner that was different from what other kids had,
too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were
convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we
were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an
hour, we would be gone for an hour or less. We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the
Child Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, weed the garden, empty the trash
and do all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for
us to do. She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and
nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers; she could read our minds
and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friend’s just honk the horn when they drove up. They
had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 17. When everyone
else was dropped off at the movies or the mall, she said we couldn’t go unless
she came too, and then she insisted on walking or sitting somewhere in our
vicinity. Because of our mother we
missed out on lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been
caught shoplifting, loitering, vandalizing other's property or ever arrested
for any crime. It was all her fault!
Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing
our best to be mean parents just like Mom was. I think that is what's wrong
with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
PASS THIS ON TO ALL THE MEAN MOTHERS
YOU KNOW.
(And Their
Kids!!!)